The Difference Between Self Confidence & Self Esteem w/ Psychotherapist Hugh Barton

What’s the difference between self confidence and self esteem? What are you emotions telling you about uncomfortable situations? What’s the power that introverts have?

Hugh Barton’s path towards becoming a psychotherapist makes him uniquely qualified to help creatives because he was one. He started out in life as a talented musician but lacked the confidence to pursue this professionally. So he attended SVA in NY and studied graphic design. He worked as a professional typesetter for a few years before rediscovering his love for music, and worked as a composer for the next 20 years. The industry took a downward turn and it sent him into depression. While getting help from a therapist, he was inspired by wanting to help others. 8 years later, he is a licensed psychotherapist and believes in spiritual psychotherapy.

Hugh Barton


Psychotherapy for Creative Spirits

01:57 What was your path to becoming a therapist?
03:00 What is a typesetting shop?
05:00 What happened between working at ad agencies and becoming a psychotherapist?
07:20 How old were you when did you decide to make a change in your career?
09:49 How do you overcome the feeling of guilt and overcome imposter syndrome?
11:10 The difference between self-confidence and self-esteem
14:00 Does our self-confidence drop when being around other people?
14:57 The Negative Interject/Inner voice
15:50 What are some of the tools to use to discern what voices are our own?
18:09 Is it natural that we all build external praise?
19:57 How long did you carry these negative imprints, and how did it manifest in your life?
23:10 Notice what happens, or what you are feeling when you’re around someone.
26:06 How do you know if you are reacting defensively to people based on hurts/pains from the past?
27:00 If you continue to see negative trends and patterns, you may be projecting onto others.
30:24 Real world example: Hostile conversation with employee
33:06 When the person was in the midst of their tantrum, how old were they emotionally?
34:10 Be Empathetic: Diagnose and unpack their concerns and meet them where they are
40:45 How do you control your emotional reaction/ego when someone else is exhibiting hostile behavior?
41:50 I Statements: I am feeling [emotion], I was hoping for [outcome], In the future, I would like [alternative] together
44:50 The best truth that I know is what’s inside of me.
47:30 Should you try to avoid using the word “You” in your I Statements
49:42 What if you have a hard time identifying your feelings?
53:28 What if you cannot afford a therapist?
56:36 What is Spiritual Psychology?
1:00:33 How do you associate the guilt that comes with money?
1:03:08 What factors compel you to lower the price on your sliding scale?
1:05:33 You price the client, not the job
1:06:55 Give the best job possible in given the budget
1:07:57 Typology – Carl Jung Introverts vs. Extroverts
1:10:20 The best business people know themselves the best.
1:11:45 The ability to be self-reflective is the key to self-confidence.

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