The Truth About Your High Expectations and Your Creativity

Are you who everyone expects you to be? Why do we hold such high expectations of ourselves? Where do expectations even come from? And why are creative people especially unhappy?

Here’s the problem I think many of us face:
Our expectations become so inflated because of the success of past experiences. We get fixated on an imaginary projected outcome, that we don’t leave any room for failure or learning. We end up feeling disappointed in ourselves when we fall short of our goals. These experiences can scar us. Eventually, we stop trying altogether. Because we change our mindset slowly shifts from being fearless…to being fearful

In this video, Matthew Encina shares his personal story of fighting against his own bloated expectations of himself and ways to look at things differently.

0:00 – How to set yourself up for disappointment
1:22 – Who is Matthew Encina?
2:24 – What are the expectations of you?
3:21 – Melanie Whitney of The Common Collective
3:41 – What are all of the layers of expectations? Cultural, Familial, Professional.
5:17 – You’re not a failure if you don’t hit your goals
6:06 – Matthew Encina’s personal struggle with expectations
8:27 – The expectation gap. Disappointment, guilt, and shame
8:45 – Shame is paralyzing and leads to self-doubt
9:27 – The expectation gap
10:20 – You are enough

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